I'm Brenda Kidder, And I Resent This Message

What a week for Terri Horman, sometime step parent of Kyron Horman, who disappeared from his second grade class in Portland, Oregon, in June of 2010! It seems that a non-profit organization called Shangri La, which serves disabled and otherwise vulnerable adults and children, hired Terri Horman to work directly with persons who have physical and mental disabilities. The fact that Terri Horman continues as the main focus of Kyron's missing persons case and that there is a permanent family protection order barring her from any contact with her former husband and daughter did not matter to Shangri La. Neither did Terri's employment
history, which included termination from a teaching position because she was abusive toward an autistic child. This raised a few eyebrows in the surrounding communities, and phone calls were made, by concerned citizens, on behalf of the clients of Shangri La.

Early last week, some flyers with Kyron's picture and contact information for law enforcement were placed near Shangri La's Eugene campus. This should not have been a problem; pictures of missing people and contact information for law enforcement are often posted in public. Shangri La responded to this by sending some of it's employees out and about to take Kyron's pictures down. Later, one of them personally stated to a volunteer that Kyron's pictures were somehow "hurting" Shangri La's clients! When the flyers were replaced, Shangri La called police, but police determined that the public display of flyers bearing pictures of missing children is not a crime. Not satisfied, Terri Horman attempted to persuade the court to grant a "no stalking" order against Stacey Green, an activist from a neighboring state, but the court declined, asking Terri Horman if she would be terribly offended if she was asked to take her silly-assed problem to the office down the hall. Okay, maybe they didn't say that, but we know it's on everyone's mind!

Yesterday, Terri Horman resigned from her most auspicious position at Shangri La, because there were flyers bearing Kyron Horman's picture on display within her line of sight. Could there be a more dumbass reason to quit one's job? "Hello? Prospective employer? I resigned from my position at my last place of employment because I didn't like some posters that were placed at the bus stop and at the post office near the building." How ridicules will that sound? Terri obviously isn't interested in maintaining employment. What's even more bizarre is Shangri La's response to the Oregonian, when a reporter telephoned for verification. Brenda Kidder, Shangri La's director of development and community engagement, (they should just change her title to "emperor of ice cream") verified Terri's resignation, but also said "I resent this message." Oh well, Brenda Kidder's not running for office, so she is not obligated to say, "I approve this message!"

Terri Horman Still Thinks The World Revolves Around Her

While perusing a couple of different Oregon sources the other day for news about the missing persons case of ten year old Kyron Horman, who disappeared from his school in Portland on June 4, of 2010, when he was seven; I noticed a rather nasty and one-sided comment that was clearly made by someone who is quite angry with the general public, with anyone who wishes Kyron's family well, and with anyone who would help search for Kyron. While there are always trolls and "haters" on any newspaper forum, this comment, from Oregonlive, made me think for a couple of reasons. First, the commenter makes a reference to a vigil that was held well over a year ago, and made some statements about an incident that took place during that vigil, but was not publicized......one would have had to be physically present in order to cite the particular details mentioned here; second, this commenter appears to seriously expect those who love Kyron, even his mother, to forget about him after awhile and give up the search! Here's an excerpt:

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"I think people traveling from several different states to demonstrate their hate for {Terri} just a block away from her home, is a bit hateful. Do you see that as a loving thing to do? How about when they went up on to the porch of the Moultons home and looked into the windows? Hateful or loving? Maybe they were hoping to see Kyron inside?"
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Hmmm....hey commenter; how do you KNOW the states from which any of those people hailed? The media barely covered that particular vigil. It did not mention much about the people involved, and certainly did not cover their personal information. Nor did the media give any factoids about the Moultons' house, or whose doorbell was rung, or who responded. If you have this information, you were present at the time. Why didn't Terri Horman or any of the Moultons take some flyers and join? There was, after all, an invitation extended for the Moultons to do so!

Why would you even rant, Whoever-You-Are, (does your name begin with the letter "T"?) about whether the gesture was loving or hateful toward Terri? Are you thinking that the only reason anyone ever looked for Kyron after he disappeared was to make Terri Horman upset? Or to express "hate" for her? If so, you are crazily mistaken! Sure, lots of people hate mentally ill, selfish, lazy, cellulite-covered, overly dependent, non-working child abusers; and quite a few people do not favor Terri Horman, but that's not the reason for the search for Kyron! There's a search on for Kyron because he's a little boy who disappeared on his stepmother's watch, and because over two years have gone by without his being found. That's why people knocked on doors in Roseburg, Oregon, and passed out flyers with Kyron's picture. It was a gesture of love for Kyron, not a gesture of hate for Kyron's sometime stepmother. The world does not revolve around Terri Horman. That said, let me also point out that the gesture was a loving gesture because everyone passing out the flyers loved doing it. One thing would have made them love it more: finding Kyron that day.

The gentle commenter went on to complain about Desiree Young, Kyron's mother, who, with assistance from donors, posted a billboard in Southern Oregon with Kyron's picture. It seems that the effort of posting a billboard on the highway, where it can be seen by commuters, has also rubbed this person the wrong way. Such measures are common during missing persons cases, and if Terri Horman took this personally, she needs to see, once again, that things other than herself are important, and Kyron's mother put up the billboard to keep Kyron's case in the public perception.

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"Do you think the billboard Desiree put up on the freeway was a loving thing to do? Kyron, we're going to track you down? Did she think Kyron goes to work everyday in his car and drives past that sign? Or was it a loving way for her to tell Terri how much she loved her son? Or to just torment Terri out of frustration?
What about Desiree passing out flyers in Roseburg and asking everyone to remember that Terri lives in Roseberg and should be shunned by the community. Do you think that was another one of those loving things people do for Kyron?"

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Oh no! Did Desiree Young pass out flyers? My Goddess, what is the world coming to? You're damn straight she passed out flyers, Whoever-You-Are! And, yes; it was an act of love! None of it was done to "torment Terri". Desiree Young very likely does not have time to torment Terri. She's trying to find Kyron! Had Terri Horman thought about Kyron from the very beginning, passed out flyers, helped with searches, answered questions, told the truth, passed polygraphs, and been available to help when Desiree was in Roseburg with flyers, it is very likely that no one would have suggested shunning Terri Horman. The sad truth is, Desiree Young was discouraged by the fact that many of the people in Roseburg had not even heard about the Kyron Horman missing persons case, despite all of the publicity it received in Portland. Kyron's stepmother, her parents, and his stepbrother ALL lived in Roseburg at the time Desiree Young passed out flyers there. Why didn't Roseburg already know about Kyron?

No, Terri; none of the efforts to find Kyron have been all about you. The world does not revolve around, you, either.

Quotes are taken from comments found following the coverage of the Kyron Horman case in Oregonlive from January 31 to February 4 of this year.

What NOT To Say During A Missing Persons Investigation

While looking at notes and pictures from a vigil in Roseburg, Oregon, held in connection to Kyron Horman's missing persons case, someone told me about her experience with a neighbor of the parents of Terri Horman, the last person reported to have seen Kyron, at his school in Portland on June 4, 2010. This person is a little old fart of a man named Jeff Manly. I was told that when someone merely knocked on his door in an effort to pass out as many flyers as possible, he not only wrinkled up and threw a flyer, but also threw a whole bunch of flyers face down on the ground, screaming that Terri Horman is "innocent" (I don't think anyone asked him that!) and a bunch of unrepeatable guff. The lady who handed him the initial flyer asked him why he felt so strongly, and if he had any idea where Kyron could be, and he said, "buried in my backyard"!

Now; I am certainly not convinced that Jeff Manly has Kyron in his backyard, but......it's certainly not a good choice of statements to make about a missing person, while law enforcement is still looking for the person! The defensive attitude is also not necessary. All Jeff Manly, of 1913 Lamont Avenue really needed to do, if he did not want a flyer, was say, "no thankyou".

Now that I heard that story, I am wondering what, exactly, Mr. Manly DOES know about young Kyron, and his disappearance. His residence is next door to the person called the "prime suspect" by a judge in the Multnomah County court system. If he knows anything about this case, the decent thing to do is to come forward and share it. Kyron was only seven when he disappeared. He had not harmed anyone, and he needs his parents as much today as he did on June 4 of 2010. A friendship with people like the Moultons is certainly not worth sacrificing the welfare of a little boy.