Another School Uses Bullies Against Disabled Child

A twelve year old boy with Aspergers Syndrome, a form of autism, is hospitalized with a cracked skull now, because his classmates at Liberty Middle School in Liberty Missouri thought that beating him up in the cafeteria was a good example of social skills. A bigger kid took the boy's backpack and moved it away from his seat, during lunch. After all, why not? Who is an autistic child to argue with a big, athletic, monster whose behavior is reinforced by a school that does nothing to stop constant assaults by the same bully? After all, in unified school districts, each school can pretty much do as it pleases, and bullies are a great way to get rid of disabled students.

The administration of the public school in Frankfort, Kansas attempted the same with a disabled child in the same grade as the child who was injured at Liberty Middle School. The principal waited until the state and federal "enrollment dollars" came in for each student, then encouraged some bigger boys, two grades ahead of the disabled child, to beat him up in a shower stall in the boys locker room. No teacher was present at the time. Afterward, the principal, Dean Dalinghaus, called the boy's parents and lied, blaming the boy!  He was actually planning to expel the victim, because he doesn't like autistic children. The truth came out when one of the bullies bragged about the incident to the disabled child's older sister. Dean Dalinghaus almost crapped himself when he found out that the Americans With Disabilities Act is a real thing.

At Liberty Middle School, there have been other incidents involving the same bully and the same victim. In the past, the school has ignored all of it. This time, the victim spent four days in the hospital with serious injuries, so ignoring it and telling the parent that her child is not as important as a football player was not an option. Because of that, Liberty Middle School is "investigating the incident". So are police: the bully is currently in juvenile detention. Frankfort, on the other hand, did not bother to take any action against bullying.

Private Message

Consider this an engraved invitation to leave my children alone. I've already enrolled them in a school where you do not hold a position, and where your parents and a handful of under-socialized bullies do not override the Constitution and the laws of the land. You are probably not mature enough to understand how lucky you are that my daughter was returned alive the day you abandoned her in unfamiliar territory, despite my prior pleadings that you teach in a more responsible manner. You are a dangerous, irresponsible person, and I will never treat you as if you had a positive role to play anywhere. It is quite clear to me that you do not. 

Stop discussing my children with the unlucky children whose parents still allow them contact with you. Stop attempting to create bullying dynamics where they would otherwise not exist. When a child does not attend your school, that child's parents should not have to entertain concerns about bullying from your students. Your attempts to subject my children to physical and mental abuse by inciting your students to abusive behaviors has not gone unnoticed. What any student does after school is none of your business. The friendships enjoyed by any student are also none of your business.  If you refuse to leave my family alone, and continue courses of action that are harassment against my children, I will take action.

  

One More Reason Religion does Not Belong In Public School

 

Northeast Kansas. The land of academic sighing. The place where sixth grade teachers use the movie, The Ten Commandments, starring Charleton Heston, as source material to teach about middle eastern cultures..........(these kids did not even know which religious holiday the movie was about) The place where children in school are told how to get to heaven or hell, but not how to find the Dominican Republic, or any other country, on a map. The place where children are not encouraged to become fluent in any language at all, including their native language(s).

 

There are alternatives, thank the Gods. Cyber districts have become much more sophisticated in recent years, and some are free. They have the same title programs for students who need assistance in reaching certain goals, and they have excellent teachers. There are also many more choices in foreign languages and other electives. The online schools that charge fees are often less expensive than enrollment fees that are extorted from parents in places where public schools are unconsolidated. Students are also much more free to personally investigate locations discussed in online classes.

 

Cyber schooling is a godsend for the student who is academically ahead of the other students in a geographic location more given to intolerance and below average thinking. A gifted and talented child is usually miserable sitting a classroom, day after day, with students whose skills are several grade levels behind the level of the gifted student. In some instances, cyber schools will even allow dual enrollment, in cases wherein there is a reason to send a child physically to a local school, as well.

 

As for bullying, it is much harder for the strata of bully cultures to flourish in online schools. It is also nearly impossible for religious discrimination to play the role it plays in person by tormenting a child whose parents do not conform socially to accepted religious and meaningless hierarchy or conform physically to the genetically unvaried phenotypes found within an isolated and undersocialized population.

 

Of course, the fewer children personally enrolled in the public school system of a locale, the less money that locale will garner from state and federal agencies to run their public schools. So this eventually affects the quality of education for the children whose parents do not care about education enough to remove their children from negative influences. It also reduces the need for public school teachers; and as teachers for cyber schools are usually better educated and more qualified than many public school teachers, especially in Frankfort, Kansas, the need for public school teachers becomes reduced, as well, as a result of alternative choices. What a quandary for the local school! It might have been a more strategic choice to simply resist the urge to force religious conversion upon students in a public school!

 

Northeast Kansas Principal Blames Victims For Actions Of Bullies

Has anyone ever had to cope with a bully at school? How about three or four bullies, at the same time? Lets build on this; has anyone ever had a disability, such as blindness, hearing impairment, or autism, and had to cope with violent bullies? And then, when the incident was over, been blamed for the whole thing by the principal, and had him phone home to tell your parents that YOU started the fight, and that he was giving you detention, while the bullies who beat you up sneered? This is exactly what happened, shortly after I moved to Northeast Kansas, to an autistic child of whom I have legal guardianship. He was in sixth grade, and some eighth grade boys thought it would be amusing to drag him into a shower stall in the boys locker room and smash his head into the wall and fixtures. My child had no defense but to bite one of the bullies. After the bully session was stopped, my child was too frightened to say a word; he was literally quiet, after the manner of children with autism, and the bullies (whose parents are friends with the principal) glibly lied about the incident.

When I got the phone call from the principal, school had just ended. My daughter walked in the door just in time to understand the gist of the conversation I was having with the principal. Basically, he told me that my child had bitten another student. He did not say a word about the locker room, or the fact that there were three older, bigger children beating on him, he just said that my child was in trouble for biting someone. When I got off the phone, my daughter explained to me that those three boys had just finished bragging to her about how cool it was that they got away with beating up a sixth grader and got away with lying about it. I was so angry as I walked to the school that I couldn't even see straight. Apparently, this principal's method of operation when dealing with bullying had always been to blame the victim. And in an autistic child, he thought he had the perfect victim; he just hadn't counted on an honest child, not from Kansas, coming forward with the truth. Ha!

The next morning, when Mr. Principal continued to pompously blame the victim, he was educated about the Individuals With Disabilities Education Act, with which he was NOT familiar. He still wanted to give detention to the victim. I asked him how badly he wanted to hear from a civil rights attorney, and how much media coverage he desired. He backed down from his stance of punishing the victim, but I have never been able to like or respect this man, and have never encouraged my children to truly respect him, outside of the cursory respect one must give the administrator of a school. In a recent conversation with him, he told me that he pushes Christianity on the children as much as he can legally get away with it, because it's "his job" to teach the children morals! Now I know where the above described bullies learned THEIR morals! But it certainly is not the principal's job to teach morals to MY children! It seems rather, that in my Pagan home, my children have learned much better morals than the children whose morals came from the principal of this school. But.....ever moving forward, all of my children know about this incident, and that their school administrator LIED to me about a child who was not able to defend himself. LIED; and in doing so, sent a message to the bullies that it is okay, not only with the school system to pick violently on disabled children, but okay with "Jesus".